what does a woman look for in a
man? Before even you hit the enter button, Google comes out with a lot of
options which read like chapters from a essay book which one used to refers to
in high schools. Seriously! How can you generalize the taste and temperament of
so many minds and come up with a solution?
i don't quite really agree.
Well before i sound like a
desperate girl who browses through internt scoops to get a man. Please no.
This blog is result of a
conversation with someone on what attracted her to a particular man in spite of
the conventional yardsticks going against him.
My trysts with men(more so boys)
weren't that impressive. I dont know how and when i turned into this “MAN
-(ha)eater panther!
Maybe because of the bullies of
my class .I created this hideous mail id -sweeto.hateguys..... which i still
use as a memoir-a proof of my once crazy self.
People still perceive me to be a
man-hater. I wont blame them for that. Our patriarchal mindset calls it
feminism whenever a woman proclaim her basic right to be treated as a human
being not a doormat or an object of lust.
I am straying from what i
intended to write(i guess i am getting into my character).
What a women wants in man? Excuse
me no snobbery here. The cliche -”tall dark handsome moneyed” should be thrown
out of the window. Yes i am not being hypocrite when i say i can fall in love
with a man who doesn't possess the conventional good looks or doesn't assure of
immediate financial security. I believe i can be successful enough to fulfill my
aspirations rather than hanging up to someone’s shoulders to fulfill the same.
Strong arms? not even that. A man
trying to protect me can be a real turn off. I would( can!) never slim down to
an extent where i would be a fragile doll wanting to rest in strong muscled
arms. Seriously what are pepper sprays there for!!
Chivalry? Please a big no if you
are trying to impress an independent self made woman. Holding the doors open
for me makes me feel like a paralyzed corpse who cannot do it of its own. Do not offer to help unless you are
asked for.
Personal hygiene? yawn i don't
care. Most woman wont judge for a man for that as long as you don't meet them
along with smelly socks for faint inducing body odour. You are free to live
your life as a rat in your own space.
Loyalty as well as space. While a
woman would want a commitment but please not any cheesy”till death would do us
apart” thingy. A practical and mature man who would want to be together as long
as the relationship stays healthy and good. Once the compatibility issue comes
up and the relationship turns into a dog-cat one, instead of working on it to
get it improved, people who cling to it for the sake of clinging to it are real
A**.
Recently someone asked who would
i prefer of the characters Raj and Suri in the ultra cheesy movie Rab ne bana
di jodi. My immediate answer was of course the suri guy. He may stand out as a
simple geeky stupid guy but what was commendable about him was his honesty, There
lies the crux you may be a little less on the intelligent quotient, but you
should be absolutely honest and genuine. (BTW i would really like to meet
someone who’s(or claims to) absolutely intelligent! )
Another thing- whats with this
word maturity! pet word of most of them.
Would you like a guy who dresses
talks and behaves like a poker faced serious guy? what a spoil sport! What are
our elder brothers and father for!(btw i am lucky enough to have a uber cool
father and brothers) Someone who’s light and talks about things you could
relate to is what most woman would like
in a guy. Talking about some tulip revolution or some isms which goes right
above your head makes a woman feel stupid. Never do that.
Having rambled a lot I guess
whatever left should be for the guy to do his homework and find out for
himself!!!!!
